Comments on: 3 Critical Steps to Managing Widow Brain

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Sat, 19 Jun 2021 09:44:36 +0000

In reply to Doris Shepherd. Hi Doris, grief is exhausting. I'm sending you peace and strength as you learn how to live in this new world 💛.

By: Doris Shepherd

Doris Shepherd — Sat, 19 Jun 2021 02:52:21 +0000

I lost my husband February 12, 2021 . We were married 53 years. Our 54 th anniversary is coming August 6th. I know it has only been 4 months but I still cry and am just tired. I was his caregiver for two years. I feel so many things you describe in Widow Brain. I go to lunch with friends but I am just happy to stay home. I just miss him.

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Tue, 01 Jun 2021 00:58:59 +0000

In reply to Rosemary. Hi Rosemary, I understand everything you're saying. It's incredibly difficult to manage so many things...a death, a pandemic, family, friends, etc. Please give yourself credit for facing your daily challenges and continuing to move through the crappy days. Your husband would be proud of your progress ❤.

By: Rosemary

Rosemary — Mon, 31 May 2021 22:53:24 +0000

My husband of forty years died last August. I thought I’d feel better after 8 months, but there are still so many issues. Yes, I get more done but none of it feels purposeful. Grieving in a pandemic is worse. I go days without seeing another soul. Friends have almost vanished. My family is all far away.
Thank you for putting so much of how I feel into words.

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Tue, 11 May 2021 16:26:06 +0000

In reply to Chana Schoenberg. Hi Chana, crying is good. And Zumba is good. So crying while you're doing Zumba is good ❤. You're still in the beginning stages of "WTF just happened?" so give yourself some extra compassion as you navigate this new world.

By: Chana Schoenberg

Chana Schoenberg — Tue, 11 May 2021 16:00:29 +0000

Comment:
just came upon this site. looks good. I lost my husband about 3 months ago, from a long debilitating illness. we were married 45 years. I still cannot grasp the enormity of his passing. the finality and reality are overwhelming.
I find going to Zumba, or something similar is a great catharsis for me. often I find that I am crying copious teras during dancing, I guess my endorphins are all over the place.

re widow brain, I find that I am quite scattered, jumping from tasks half-finished to another task. similar to ADD. and often not knowing how to start my day….decisions don’t come easily as they often did in the past. I have what is called a monkey brain. jumping all over the place, like a gerbil spinning in a cage, round and round………
I catered to my husband for many years, now, it’s about my health. quite frankly I think I am suffering from PTSD. Need much patience for the process of grieving. my mantra…

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Thu, 29 Apr 2021 10:02:53 +0000

In reply to Joanne Nelson. Hi Joanne, lots of unexpected feelings and actions surface as a result of grief. You're definitely not going crazy and need to show yourself some extra grace now more than ever 💛!

By: Joanne Nelson

Joanne Nelson — Thu, 29 Apr 2021 04:36:28 +0000

My husband of nearly 47 years died Christmas Eve morning of Parkinson’s. In so many ways it was a relief because he had suffered with dementia for several months. I did really well ( or at least I thought so) for 3 months. Then I started feeling like I was walking in a daze, unable to complete tasks, etc. it is just as you described. Reading your article makes me realize I am not going crazy, I am just dealing with grief in a way I never expected. Thank you for this insight.

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Fri, 23 Apr 2021 09:05:29 +0000

In reply to Kara Roubideaux. Hi Kara, thank you for this 😆!

By: Kara Roubideaux

Kara Roubideaux — Wed, 21 Apr 2021 20:35:45 +0000

I looked for my phone while I was talking on it before I even got widow’s brain🙄🙄🙄