Comments on: You Are in Absolute Control of These 5 Things

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Sun, 13 Jun 2021 20:17:37 +0000

In reply to Maggie Randle. Hi Maggie, and honestly, a decision isn't "good" or "bad" until we decide it is. So I guess it makes sense to not view any decisions as mistakes, just learning opportunities 😉.

By: Maggie Randle

Maggie Randle — Sun, 13 Jun 2021 19:35:43 +0000

I’m coming up on the three year mark. Carrying the burden of all the decision making is what weighs on me the most. It was nice to hear the reality that we make some good decisions and some bad ones, but we have to learn from them and move forward. It’s not the end of the world! Thank you!

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 10:04:58 +0000

In reply to Jan. Hi Jan, you've suffered a lot of loss in a short time. Sending peace and strength your way.

By: Jan

Jan — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 03:09:41 +0000

When my husband died suddenly in February I was on the other side of the country helping my mother take care of my dad, at home under hospice care. With all the restrictions of Covid, my husband kept saying don’t leave them, you are where you need to be. When I got the call that he was in the emergency room, I booked the soonest flight home, but I didn’t make it in time. Five weeks later we lost Dad too. I was surprised at how well we seemed to be handling things at first, but the grief seems to increase as time passes.

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 11:22:57 +0000

In reply to Ruby. Hi Ruby, I cringe when I hear Glioblastoma because I know how this whole thing went down for you and I'm so sorry your husband had to endure it and you had to watch him slip away. Sending peace and strength your way ❤.

By: Ruby

Ruby — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 02:14:38 +0000

Thank you for your words of encouragement. Like you, I lost my husband in October 2020 to a Glioblastoma Grade 4 brain tumor – 9 months after diagnosis. I could relate to so many details of your story.
When people ask, I say that I am doing as well as can be expected. I get up, go to work, participate in a Griefshare group, and try to make wise choices. I also still cry several times a day, as I just miss my husband and our former life. I think that is just part of grief journey.
Tonight I am reflecting on your words – knowing I need to take better care of my own health. I appreciate your honesty in sharing your journey and look forward to learning more from you.

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Sat, 28 Nov 2020 11:27:24 +0000

In reply to Tracey. Hi Tracey, even though it sounds cliche,you take one day at a time. It IS overwhelming and you don't have to have everything figured out right now. I think we put unnecessary expectations on ourselves when we assume that we should "know what to do." But no one knows what or how to do something until they do it. Please give yourself the grace and space to figure it out as you go along.

By: Tracey

Tracey — Sat, 28 Nov 2020 04:32:51 +0000

My husband passed away 6 weeks ago. His birthday was 2 weeks ago, Thanksgiving yesterday, and Christmas is coming soon. It has been rough.
I quit my job in April to care for him, and now find myself having to start over completely. It is so overwhelming! How do you handle it?

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Wed, 25 Nov 2020 11:47:05 +0000

In reply to Sara. Hi Sara, life throws a lot at us widows. But we figure out pretty quick that we can do hard things 💪!

By: Sara

Sara — Wed, 25 Nov 2020 04:51:41 +0000

Thank You for ALL of this! My husband died 8 months ago and I struggle with everything life is throwing at me. It felt good to read this. It’s one thing to be independent and another to have to be independent. Thank You for all of your words of encouragement.