Comments on: Uncomplicated Ways to Deal With Widow Fog

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Sat, 12 Dec 2020 10:23:00 +0000

In reply to Jason. Hi Jason, thank you for reading and responding. Your partner is lucky to have someone so invested in understanding a widow's perspective 💛.

By: Jason

Jason — Sat, 12 Dec 2020 02:29:04 +0000

Hello, I am a new partner to a widow. First let me say that i stepped into that space with the full understanding of what are some of the potential things that may arise. I have researched life from a widows perspective, that of the family surrounding/protection the widow and that of the ones such as myself walking into a relationship with a widow. One thing that I did not read about was the widows fog. I had to check in with my partner recently about a couple of arranged dates and times that we had made and then was told she was doing something else. For me initially that was a little concerning that the plans we had made was dismissed so readily without a conversation or forethought, hense the checkin to discuss it. That was when my partner told me about how widow fog affects her. It wasn’t a case of having our plans changed when something else came up without a discussion, but the fact that the making of a plan did not even compute within her brain. Not even the fact of discussing times and dates did it register that we were even making arrangements. My partners sent me this link and another I am about to go read. We put a simple mechanism in place to help combat misunderstanding by making sure we both put the event organised down in our diary the moment plans are made , even the mundane things. This is why one thing I would add to the this story is to communicate whats happening if a new person enters a widows life. This is so very important. No guess work, misunderstanding or misreading will occur. I am thankful I was able to get some understanding from here on this side of a widow.

Thank you for sharing.

Jason Annand

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Thu, 04 Jun 2020 11:30:32 +0000

In reply to Mary. Mary, sending peace and strength your way ❤.

By: Mary

Mary — Thu, 04 Jun 2020 03:03:13 +0000

Gee this help me never heard of brain fog for widow thanks I loss my love of 53 yr to the day of a heart attack said my name and was gone we met April fool day and he left April fool day 53 yr later I miss him terrible thanks again

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Fri, 29 May 2020 19:09:29 +0000

In reply to Judy. Hi Judy, oh...the rumination. I hear you! I'm a ruminator too and it's the worst!

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Fri, 29 May 2020 19:07:03 +0000

In reply to Nancy Roberts Silvia. Nancy, give yourself extra grace whenever you need it :)

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Fri, 29 May 2020 19:06:08 +0000

In reply to Linda.

Hi Linda, brain fog happens when you’re overtaxed. So, in the beginning, it can be strictly grief-related but as time goes on brain fog could be a compilation of other factors. So, yes, it can happen after 2 years, but here are some other reasons for brain fog according to WebMD: https://www.webmd.com/brain/ss/slideshow-brain-fog.

By: Judy

Judy — Fri, 29 May 2020 15:59:06 +0000

Thank you for your helpful insights. You’re right on target. I’ve forwarded your website to the support group I’m in. With Covid-19 I do feel like it’s a double whammy! Since I’m not in my normal routine i have more time to ruminate, which isn’t helpful. I do have widow fog at times two and a half years later. I envisioned living without Richard getting easier, but it hasn’t, unfortunately. thanks again. Judy

By: Nancy Roberts Silvia

Nancy Roberts Silvia — Fri, 29 May 2020 13:56:08 +0000

I don’t know what I would do without you not do I know how I lived without you. It’s like u can read my mind. Widow fog was about to do me in but I feel so much better now. Thank u. I just miss him so much.

By: Linda

Linda — Fri, 29 May 2020 13:28:44 +0000

Hello,Good Morning.Read your article! Thank you. Just wondering if braIn fog could happen 2 years after my vets death?Linda