Comments on: Five Important Lessons from Five Years of Widowhood https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/ On a quest to make widowhood suck a little less Thu, 19 Sep 2024 13:14:53 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/#comment-1318 Sat, 20 Feb 2021 20:20:20 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3910#comment-1318 In reply to Loralie.

Oh Loralie, I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been widowed for a second time 💔. There are no good words for this.

]]> By: Loralie https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/#comment-1317 Sat, 20 Feb 2021 19:54:57 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3910#comment-1317 I have been reading your Posts on Pinterest, this one hit home. My first husband passed in 2006 and did finally find that second love after 9 years. They were complete opposite in their personality. Both good man. When my first husband passed our son and daughter were grown. He took his life. My children were both in the military so they weren’t able to be home that often. When I meet my second husband he was retired and I just got laid off from my job. He was also widowed and within a year we married. My son and daughter was happy for us but his son and daughter not really. Within two years we found out he had dementia and this passed August went into memory care center. All was okay until December when he tested positive for Covid. My husband did not pass from Covid he was also suffering from an urinary tract infection that was urosepsis. I am now widowed for the second time.

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/#comment-874 Wed, 28 Oct 2020 19:48:24 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3910#comment-874 In reply to Maria.

Hi Maria, I like how you said, “it could mean just being content with life after a time of long grief.” I think that’s an incredibly powerful statement. We know grief never really goes away, so we get to choose how to bring it along with us. I think being “content with life,” regardless of the circumstances, is an effective path to choose ❤.

]]> By: Maria https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/#comment-873 Wed, 28 Oct 2020 15:13:18 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3910#comment-873 I found your article on Pinterest, I am so grateful and thanking you, I am into my 7 th year, everything you wrote I experienced, thought I was healing at my own pace while putting up a brave front, but it all came crashing again. Every year I tell my self I am ready to let him go and the struggle is so real and it’s not easy while family friends and work environment, people do not understand what I am going through. I don’t allow anyone to get closer to me cause all I ever hear is “ you must move on” kind of tired of hearing that statement over and over. It made me hold on more stronger to his memory.
So here I am taking that journey to start my process of healing again. My hope and prayers for all “ what’s your superpower I am a widow” to heal in a time of their choosing. And to move forward in pursuit of happiness, it could mean just being content with life after a time of long grief and just being able to breath and not feel sad, upset, cry, scream, or throw tantrums. I have been holding it all in me while being brave and strong.
After 5 yrs, I ve had no proper support group around. The last 2 yrs had been my toughest. Every wedding anniversary, birthday, holiday seasons, are the most hardest. I hope to find some peace in letting go. And thank you for all your articles, it’s like reading a journal of everything I went through.

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/#comment-833 Mon, 05 Oct 2020 23:47:53 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3910#comment-833 In reply to Bonnie Teodoro.

Hi Bonnie, solo parenting is the hardest thing ever! I think focusing on self-care is ultra-important, but so often overlooked. Keep on trying and I will too 😉.

]]> By: Bonnie Teodoro https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/#comment-831 Mon, 05 Oct 2020 23:06:17 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3910#comment-831 In 2 weeks it will be 10 years since I lost my husband. I just found you and glad I did. Even though I reached 5 years, 5 years ago, your messege still resonates today.
Raising 2 boys as a widowed single mother is hard, but we do it; we do it everyday.
After the funeral it felt like I hit the ground running; a hamster on a wheel. But, the hardest lesson I have learned is self care, and I still don’t do it enough. 10 years on, I’m still learning.
Thanks for being out here!

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/#comment-778 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 19:39:17 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3910#comment-778 In reply to Jen Collins.

Hi Jen, glad to hear you’ve allowed love into your life again and that you’re living your life instead of just existing. No one gets through life unscathed so, yes, keep up the fight!

]]> By: Jen Collins https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/#comment-777 Thu, 10 Sep 2020 19:08:41 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3910#comment-777 I am so glad to have come across this blog post. I’m 3.5 years into this journey, and everything in this post makes complete sense to me. I’m finding that the pandemic is stirring up a lot of the feelings I had in the early days of grief, when I felt like I was just waiting in line until life would resume some sense of normalcy. Losing your husband is more than just the loss of that one special person, but your entire life is turned upside down. I’m feeling that way now as we hit the 6 month mark of this ongoing pandemic. But as for your last lesson, love IS all around, and I am lucky to be sharing in this strange twilight zone episode with my partner whom I moved in with just a year ago. Life does go on. I’ll be taking your lesson about just being productive to heart. I can’t use this pandemic, or any of the hardships that come down the road, as an excuse not to keep up the fight. Thanks Kim, this was the kick in the ass I needed.

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/#comment-770 Sun, 06 Sep 2020 01:50:43 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3910#comment-770 In reply to Melanie Hamilton.

Melanie, I’m so sorry. Yes, I absolutely know you will get through this, but damn if it isn’t torture in the process 💔.

]]> By: Melanie Hamilton https://widow411.com/five-important-lessons-from-five-years-of-widowhood/#comment-769 Sat, 05 Sep 2020 23:26:27 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3910#comment-769 I just found you on Pinterest. I lost my husband 5 weeks ago. He was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer in January & six months later he was gone. I know I will see him in heaven one day, but until then I am raising our 3 young children alone. Thanks for writing & showing me that I will get through this.

Melanie

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