Right here. Like is F!@$$% crap. I lost my job after the love of my life passed. I tried to take my own life & begged that I died instead of a poor child passing. Anything. I hate walking up. I sleep. So your not the only one. I despise this new life. I died when he died. No there is no silver lining.

Nancy, on top of the dark place of grief, it sounds like you are dealing with financial issues too and when you have to deal with more stuff, it makes it extra hard. Also, it is hard to grieve at the same time keep working because you have to. I have moved 5 times since my husband died and you’re right, some people say that your person will “look out for you” and they aren’t and that is maddening to hear that because you know it’s just you. Do you have friend or family that can help you right now? Are there resources in your local are that can help you financially until you can get what you need? #3 in this article talks about finding resources to help you-it seems this would be key for you right now. My heart goes out to you.

Nancy, I would be frustrated and angry too. There are so many unfair things about widowhood. SO MANY!

Hi Connie, to answer your question, it was about 2 years after my husband died. I spent the first 2 years in a constant state of panic 😬. Then I started to understand that I didn’t have to have ALL the answers and I didn’t have to fix everything. I just needed to show up for my life. Move forward. And feel all the feelings with less judgement ❤. It’s a process. Not an easy one by any means!

Question first: how long had your hubby been gone when you had this enlightenment about “just showing up” and applying it?

Comment:
This statement reached out and grabbed me: “Grief must be felt…..not fixed.”
I thank you for that simple yet profound statement.

Blessings to you!!🥰