Comments on: The 5 Things Widows Need to Stop Apologizing For

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 10:30:44 +0000

In reply to Karen. Hi Karen, it IS weird. People die, we never forget them, we move forward, but still get angry, our lives change and we can find peace but still long for the way things used to be. We laugh and grieve and rant and rave in the same space. The dichotomy of life!

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 24 Dec 2020 04:06:07 +0000

It’s actually been 22 1/2 years and grief still rears it’s ugly head from time to time. I did find love again, but there are times when I still get mad that my husband died! He was only 42 and I was 41 so very young still, and I had our kids still. He brought a daughter to the marriage and I brought my kids. His daughter became my daughter too. It’s just all very weird,

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Mon, 26 Oct 2020 18:39:04 +0000

In reply to Carol Ann. Hi Carol Ann, one-day-at-a-time thinking is perfect ❤️.

By: Carol Ann

Carol Ann — Mon, 26 Oct 2020 17:57:40 +0000

It’s just over one year, I /We never had time to adjust to the diagnosis . Then he was gone, in his sleep, at home, with us there. Just like he wanted. Without our kids , I wouldn’t be here today. They convinced me not to follow him. Without them holding me, day and night, telling me They loved me. It’s been a tough year and a lot of hard work trying to get back on track, you know, my childhood punishments become my new goals. Early to bed, early to rise, get up, get dressed, eat healthy, clean up after yourself, get outside. Most importantly, stay positive, pray for strength. One foot in front of the other, one day at a time thinking. Sometimes all I can handle is right now. Be grateful, be thankful. Love life, do some good. Don’t forget, YOU CAN Do IT You got this. Yes

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Sun, 12 Apr 2020 10:52:56 +0000

In reply to Ruby. Ruby, grief is a long, hard road. You are most definitely not alone in your feelings! I'm so glad you've decided to get rid of the guilt because it's the only way to heal 👌.

By: Ruby

Ruby — Sun, 12 Apr 2020 04:51:23 +0000

I’ve just read all of your articles on this site – it was extremely helpful and had a profound effect on me since my husband also died of a brain tumor – 2 months from diagnosis to death. I too went through all the guilt of “what if”. He was always “quirky” so while I did notice some things, I thought it was just more of him being quirky. If only I had paid closer attention. We were married 45 year (1 month shy of 46) and the last 15 years he was retired while I still worked. We argued a lot because I was still working and going to events with friends and he wouldn’t leave the house. I agonized over every one of those arguments after he died. He didn’t become a saint but close enough but through it all I did realize (as did my children) that I love him but he was hard very hard to live with. I wish I had told him I loved him more and spent more time with him. When he was diagnosed I quit my job immediately and was with him 24/7 until his death (through surgery and hospital rehab). He’s been gone almost 2 years. I have more freedom now than I ever did and yet I miss him terribly. Even his bad moods. Thanks for the articles, they helped me realize I’m not alone in my feelings and I deserve to “live”. I need to kick “guilt” out the door.