Comments on: The Most Powerful Word You’re Not Using https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/ On a quest to make widowhood suck a little less Mon, 28 Oct 2024 17:58:32 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/#comment-1020 Fri, 11 Dec 2020 10:18:24 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=8864#comment-1020 In reply to Kevin.

Hi Kevin, thanks for reading and responding. I think your wife would be proud of your outlook and happy that you’re following her lead to make the most of each day. Grief is HARD WORK but we honor those we’ve lost by living this short, precious life in the best way we know how. And it sounds like you’re doing just that. Thanks for the important reminder ❤.

]]> By: Kevin https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/#comment-1018 Fri, 11 Dec 2020 02:29:32 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=8864#comment-1018 I love this website. It follows what my wife and I had discussed long before she passed. It has been about 12 weeks since she has been gone and it has been intense and hard. I am mostly alone and working from home. But if she were to some in the door tonight and see how I am moving on, would she be happy or angry? I made a solemn promise to her that I would enjoy the rest of my life. That doesn’t mean having another wife (although I am open to that, not now though).
How else can I live without making my wife happy if she was here. We have been together 27 years. She had cystic fibrosis, and she was in the hospital every year for at least 3-4 weeks. Sometimes we were not sure that she would live out the year with all the complications. So we lived for the moment for 27 years, and that has made all the difference. She had a double lung transplant in 2014, liver resection in 2017, and bile duct cancer came back and took her down. I am still devastated, but i have hope in the promises I have made to her. I refuse to let grief get in the way of our 27 years of happiness. And your website is one of the very very few that follow our ideas to conquer grief. Life is short, I am a great guy and have a lot to give. I ‘choose’ not to let grief take over our wonderful time together. Thank you so much for this site. i only ask that you mention that it is also for male widowers. Males might just turn away based on the ‘female type’ theme. We males are fragile inside also, and could use some great help your site offers.

Luv,
Kevin

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/#comment-864 Tue, 20 Oct 2020 11:23:33 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=8864#comment-864 In reply to Denise.

Denise, you’re an inspiration to others dealing with devastation and learning how to move forward. This is HARD WORK but you’re already recognizing that it takes small steps and the ability to feel ALL the feelings to handle another day. Keep on keeping on 👊 ❤.

]]> By: Denise https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/#comment-861 Tue, 20 Oct 2020 02:09:35 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=8864#comment-861 I just started my journey after losing my husband of 40 years to a motorcycle accident in July, 2020. Also lost my comfort dog of 13, in September 2020. Life as I knew it is gone. I have some days that are very happy AND I have days that I’m talking to him in tears. I started going through his clothes, put them on the bed then put them back. After reading this site, I donated his shoes today to Soles for Souls. It’s a start, hard AND I felt good about it.

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/#comment-817 Tue, 29 Sep 2020 09:56:58 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=8864#comment-817 In reply to Char.

Hi Char, thank you for taking the time to read and respond 😊.

]]> By: Char https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/#comment-814 Tue, 29 Sep 2020 09:08:27 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=8864#comment-814 This post spoke so clearly to me! My current life is living in the “before” and trying to figure out what “after” looks like. Who am I now that my husband has passed and it is no longer “us?” Such a painful reality, but it’s where I am. Thank you for speaking words into my feelings.

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/#comment-805 Wed, 23 Sep 2020 13:47:12 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=8864#comment-805 In reply to Sharon Apple.

Hi Sharon, it’s a game changer!

]]> By: Sharon Apple https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/#comment-804 Wed, 23 Sep 2020 13:08:19 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=8864#comment-804 Yes!!! I have left “AND” out of my life! Thank you for another informative article.
I depend on your words of wisdom so much and it helps me each day.

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/#comment-792 Fri, 18 Sep 2020 21:32:09 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=8864#comment-792 In reply to Missy Peterson.

Missy, yes, exactly! Me too 😊.

]]> By: Missy Peterson https://widow411.com/the-most-powerful-word/#comment-790 Fri, 18 Sep 2020 16:32:27 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=8864#comment-790 Thankyou.
That explains why some days I feel like I’m stuck in a rut AND other days I’m putting one foot in front of the other.

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