Comments on: Are You a Widow Who’s Making Grief Harder than Necessary?

By: JosAng

JosAng — Mon, 19 Oct 2020 18:10:30 +0000

This article is complete nonsense. I am so tired of trying to find resources for grieving and getting on with life. But what works for one doesn’t work for all. I know one thing, someone doesn’t need to feel anymore than they already feel with grief – like guilt for how they have to handle it. Super disappointed by this article.

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Sun, 09 Aug 2020 10:04:59 +0000

In reply to Candice Davis Redington.

Candice, grief is HARD. Please give yourself extra grace and space as you find your way on this new, extremely difficult, and emotionally wrenching path. You’ll run the gamut on emotions with confusion, anger, fear, and guilt among the most pressing. Let yourself feel all of them without judgment. This is not an easy road, but you’ll eventually find your way like the rest of us do…one day or one hour or even one minute at a time. Sending you truckloads of peace and strength as you navigate your “new normal.”

By: Candice Davis Redington

Candice Davis Redington — Sat, 08 Aug 2020 15:31:44 +0000

I lost my husband 39 days ago today, it feels like a dream that he is actually gone. Time stood still and sped up all at the same time. He died 6 days after his 50th birthday in his sleep suddenly and I feel so much guilt over a lot of things. I’ve taken a few of my friends suggestions to help with him being gone, some have worked others haven’t. Most of the time I feel lost all the fucking time and it sucks because I have an almost teenage boy to take care of and it’s slowly starting to hit him about what has happened, I’m trying so hard to be strong for the both of us and some days I want to give up but I know I can’t, I cry everyday because I just want the little things that I had back. On the 6th of August was our anniversary and it also happens to be National Rootbeer Float day so my son and I had floats in honor of my husband and what would have been our 4 year anniversary, it helped but everything seems to make me an emotional trainwreck.

By: Kim Murray

Kim Murray — Mon, 27 Jul 2020 13:30:12 +0000

In reply to Michelle.

Michelle, it’s mind-boggling to hear what you’ve endured. My mind says, “that’s one badass widow warrior right there.” Seriously! Life isn’t fair and it’s heaped all the ridiculously hard stuff right on top of you. I’m sorry to hear things are so difficult for you. But have you taken stock of what you’ve accomplished? Have you loved yourself enough to be proud of every single hurdle you’ve overcome? YOU ARE AMAZING. I can tell you that, but you need to believe it yourself. Maybe this isn’t a wish for a different life, so much as an appeal for Michelle to love, hold, and support Michelle on a deeper level ❤.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 27 Jul 2020 01:33:59 +0000

In a 3 month period I not only lost my husband (he died in my arms after a long battle with cancer) , I lost my job of 18 years, and had a stroke. Shortly after a year of hospitals and stroke PT rehab I was cleared by doctors & could drive again and try to resume life, but that wasn’t the case i was diagnosed with a rare cancer not once but twice; clear cell Cervical, then clear cell ovarian. In 7 months I had three major surveys and spent a total of 3 months in hospitals and PT rehab(some of this time was during COVID shutdown. All of this and experiencing severe depression, PTSD, and anxiety.
I had the best of everything (marriage, career, Financial stability, home and hobbies, and was a very happy person. And in a seriously short period of time my whole life was gone… not one part of it.. ALL OF IT!! Please help me, because I feel paralyzed and am just existing at this point.
I just turned 50 .. everyone keeps saying oh the best is coming, you’ll be stronger and better than before. Blah blah blah.. But in my heart and soul I know that I have already had the best. so what do I do? I struggled and fought tooth and nail for the life I had and now I am just so fucking tired, have no desire or motivation to fight that hard for anything because I know how quickly everything can be gone. I don’t find joy in anything anymore and am mostly just moving through each day like I’m sleepwalking and without purpose.
NO ONE understands and with exception to a couple of people, everyone vacated my life.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m so tired of being sick and tired.

Michelle 🦋