Comments on: You Don’t Get What You Don’t Ask For https://widow411.com/you-dont-get-what-you-dont-ask-for/ On a quest to make widowhood suck a little less Wed, 19 May 2021 10:34:21 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/you-dont-get-what-you-dont-ask-for/#comment-2239 Wed, 19 May 2021 10:34:21 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3632#comment-2239 In reply to Tana.

Hi Tana, I’m sorry thats been your experience 😔.

]]> By: Tana https://widow411.com/you-dont-get-what-you-dont-ask-for/#comment-2232 Wed, 19 May 2021 07:02:15 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3632#comment-2232 My husband had brain cancer for 33 months so there were some other project somewhere the yard in the house that didn’t get done. After he passed away I did ask for help ,I asked for help from members of my church and nobody ever came to help me, and my husband was the maintenance man so that church for 20 years! So I left the church I joined another church and I started asking those people for help and nobody would come to help me, not everybody can afford to pay somebody to come out and help. I live in an older model mobile home I know I always make many repairs that my husband took care of.The fact is nobody cares for widows.

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/you-dont-get-what-you-dont-ask-for/#comment-650 Fri, 17 Jul 2020 15:25:35 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3632#comment-650 In reply to Betty.

Betty, I totally understand this! I’d rather pay someone too. But paying is also another way of asking for help 👌. It’s getting comfortable with stating your wants and needs and then acting on it in whatever way works best for you 😊.

]]> By: Betty https://widow411.com/you-dont-get-what-you-dont-ask-for/#comment-649 Fri, 17 Jul 2020 15:10:46 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=3632#comment-649 Before my husband passed away i had several people at church tell me “if you need anything let me know and i mean anything”. I had some plumbing problems a faucet needed replacing and i told one of the people you told me ask, so i asked if they knew a good plumber and they said ” oh don’t worry i’ll take care of it” this went on while my husband was sick and i was busy taking care of him, we had no water in the bathroom sink for over a year. Every time this person would tell me ” i haven’t forgotten you” i would politely say” thank you”. I finally got the faucet changed after the man who bought my house said he could fix it. I and my husband always had a hard time asking for help and i still do. So it is really hard to ask for help my husband did or he knew who to call and we always paid for help. I still have a tendency to just pay for help easier than asking.

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