Comments on: The Astonishing Things People Say to Grieving Widows https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/ On a quest to make widowhood suck a little less Fri, 30 Aug 2024 13:33:34 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/#comment-2052 Fri, 23 Apr 2021 09:06:32 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=4099#comment-2052 In reply to Brenda.

Hi Brenda, ugh. That’s the worst. Like, THE WORST 😖.

]]> By: Brenda https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/#comment-2045 Thu, 22 Apr 2021 12:34:56 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=4099#comment-2045 My fiance passed away a month ago… one of my friends called me 2 weeks after he passed to check on me, which I greatly appreciated, until she said “I know what you’re going through, divorce is like a death and I felt what you’re feeling”. I couldn’t believe she said that! I’m friends with her and her ex husband and I know how devastating it was when he left but I also know that she can see or talk to him anytime she wants!! No, it’s not the same… not at all!!!

]]> By: Angie https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/#comment-840 Thu, 08 Oct 2020 18:59:55 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=4099#comment-840 In reply to Tammie Steiner.

Know how you feel. It’s been four weeks and if anyone mentions they’ve lost a dog I’ll knock them out. I’m raw with emotion and not sure how to cope

]]> By: Angie https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/#comment-839 Thu, 08 Oct 2020 15:13:32 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=4099#comment-839 In reply to Mary.

I know how you feel!! I didn’t leave/lose my husband in asda stockroom.

]]> By: Nichole https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/#comment-789 Fri, 18 Sep 2020 15:58:59 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=4099#comment-789 In reply to Kim Murray.

So sorry Christine! Your suffering, your peace, and your closure matter. My husband lost his battle with stage four cancer earlier this year, and others have said similarly hurtful things to me. I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m sorry that others have not been as comforting as you need and as I would like them to be for you and your family.

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/#comment-786 Mon, 14 Sep 2020 20:28:29 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=4099#comment-786 In reply to Tammie Steiner.

Hi Tammie, I like your attitude. Yes, you’re right. At least they’re trying!

]]> By: Tammie Steiner https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/#comment-785 Mon, 14 Sep 2020 19:54:13 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=4099#comment-785 My husband of just over 25 years had a stroke to the brain stem during a surgery to remove a noncancerous brain tumor just last month. Our 19 and 22 year old daughters and I decided to withdraw care 3 days after the surgery, he died 15 minutes later.

I will take the the insensitive comments all day long. It is the people who you thought were true friends and family who do not take the time to send a card or make a phone call, or simply ignore you when they see you at a family gathering. At least the people saying stupid things are trying; and who of us haven’t said stupid things when in an awkward situation.

I have heard pretty much all of the phrases you mentioned in the past 6 weeks. I have learned to just shake my head and say, “Thank You.” Otherwise I may respond with harsh words, a slap to the face or an outburst of tears.

]]> By: Kim Murray https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/#comment-731 Sun, 23 Aug 2020 09:12:06 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=4099#comment-731 In reply to Gabby Hall.

Hi Gabby, the insensitive people never cease to amaze me!

]]> By: Gabby Hall https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/#comment-730 Sat, 22 Aug 2020 22:18:35 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=4099#comment-730 I shut this one down immediately. “You’re lucky. Your husband died. My ex-wife is out there running her mouth”. Unfortunately there was no satisfaction of slamming a receiver down on this person’s ears, however, I did have to laugh when I realized what truth his ex was probably speaking if he was that oblivious to my pain of just 2 months from my husband of 20 years passing!

]]> By: Deb https://widow411.com/the-astonishing-things-people-say-to-grieving-widows/#comment-727 Fri, 21 Aug 2020 14:39:01 +0000 https://www.widow411.com/?p=4099#comment-727 In reply to Barb Gincley.

My husband died 8 months ago, and about 2 months ago someone said to me “ I thought that you would be doing better by now.” Really? I dated him for 5 years and was married to him for 48 years, and you want me to be over it? Totally ticked me off. I also love when someone says that I seem different. Uh yeah, I am different because I’m sad some days and just muddling through on others.

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