Widow 411 Blog

Short and Sweet Summary: Guilt is an unnecessary byproduct of grief. If you feel doubt. shame, self-judgment or blame yourself for any number of things that you think you should have done differently, you’ve experienced widow guilt. It’s time to let that shit go. Make no mistake about it… You’re in a never-ending battle. The…

Ahhh…the million dollar question, “how long should I wear my ring?” And, if you’ve stopped wearing your wedding ring, “what am I supposed to do with it?” Well, you can wear your wedding ring for as long as you like and as long as your comfortable wearing it. You don’t have to take it off…

Short and Sweet Summary: Even though some days it’s hard to determine whether or not you’re bat-shit crazy, there’s one indisputable reason to put your fears to rest. Crazy people don’t typically qualify whether or not they’re crazy. So, I have this deep, guttural voice that emerges when I’ve reached my limit and can no…

Short and Sweet Summary: Grief has something to tell you and something to show you. You can’t outrun grief and you don’t get to decide when it pays a visit. But, you must invite grief in when it comes knocking. It’s the only way. My husband was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer on February 14,…

Short and Sweet Summary: When the sky is falling and hysteria takes over your brain, train yourself to stop overthinking the worst-case scenario like Chicken Little did. He believed everything everyone ever told him. How about trying to believe you’re capable of finding a solution instead? Has this happened to you? You’re going along all…

If your husband’s credit card was in his name only and if you don’t live in a community property state (see below), you are not responsible for the debt repayment and many credit card companies simply write off the debt. Send a copy of the death certificate to the credit card company via certified mail…